After the IVF

Even though I am sure of my decision, of course I wonder what it would be like to be a Stay/ Work At Home Mom. I actually know very few. One of my S/WAHM friends just told me yesterday that she has been having nightmares about her dh dying and being left destitute. (She was my secretary in her pre child life). Her DH is encouraging her to go to get more training and go to back to work. She can’t decide what she wants to do. I jokingly told her to just make sure that he had a big life insurance policy.

Joking aside, I told her my own mom, a S/WAHM and formerly a teacher, got her masters in library science when my baby sister turned 3. My mom said it was insurance in case something happened to Dad and she seriously did want to go to work, but ultimately made the decision not to because it would cost more to hire babysitter/ taxes. So not to stir up the debate between Work at home moms and work outside moms…I guess all of us occasionally gaze over to the other side and wonder how it is.

I am going back part time in 4 weeks and then probably fulltime when 4 weeks after that. I will be fortunate to have a nanny full time. I like working and for the effort I put forth I am greatly rewarded, both in money and satisfaction. I also feel that because so many people (and government loans) supported me through school, I owe it to society to repay my debt. I did not start my career until I was 29 years old because of all the training it takes to be a physician. My dh is in a stable profession currently, but we need a bit more income (from me) to do what we want. Personally I don’t think in my current circumstances I could stay home for long. Now I am faced with the challenge of adding the baby into my life. Let’s see how it all goes.